Wednesday, September 18, 2013

On Becoming a Mother of Two: Gratitude

Holding her big brother's hand the first time.
There are so many things that delight me about having a newborn. Looking down a a tiny little face, brow scrunched up with the effort of opening her small mouth wide around my nipple. The unmistakable scent of her downy head. Seeing my & her papa's features combined & expressed in miniature. Hearing her assert herself with a grunt. Watching her calm down at the touch of her father or the sound of her brother's voice.

It's not all cuteness & prime time ready family vignettes, however. I'm again faced with a baby who isn't feeding that well or gaining weight as fast as she should. The fact that my body might not be able to do better than last time, which saw us supplementing with formula for about 20% of Sprout's needs, frustrates me to tears multiple times a day. Every time she fusses, I worry it's because she's hungry.

But when I was dressing her in one of our stash of hand-me-down sleepers, I remembered where it came from. This tiny yellow velour sleeper was one of three that I bought when I was pregnant with our first baby, Arrow, in 2009. I chose neutral colours because I didn't yet know his gender. Unfortunately, I found out not long after when he came into the world at just 18 weeks gestation.

I went through months of grief, wondering if I would ever have a child. I could hardly look at pregnant women without crying & I couldn't face my sister, who was pregnant with twins, due a week before Arrow had been. A little over four years later, here I am with the two I wanted. As sleep-deprived & emotional over the breastfeeding challenges as I am right now, I have two healthy children who I am so immensely grateful for.


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6 comments:

  1. Thank you Lisa for reminding me to be grateful today for my two blessings. I'm having breastfeeding troubles myself (mastitis for the 3rd time) and severely lacking sleep to go along with it. But I need to be more thankful to be in those situations. Because it means I'm a mom.

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    1. Agh, mastitis must be tough & three times? I hope this is your last bout of it & you heal up quickly! Thanks for your comment!

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  2. That was really beautiful!! I want another one now...

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    1. Aw, thanks! Didn't expect the post to have that result... :)

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  3. *sniffle* So happy for you. Corny as it sounds, not a day goes by that I'm not thankful for my son.

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    1. I think most parents are thankful for their children, but those of us who haven't had the smoothest path to parenthood are maybe just that much more... I don't think it's corny at all. :)

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